Were You Bullied?

JJ Hart
3 min readMar 16, 2022

So many gender dysphoric individuals sadly have to put up with the effects of bullying when they grow up. The process is capable of scarring them throughout their lives.

Ironically, effeminate boys and men on occasion transition into the most natural women so it’s the age old “give and take” story.

As we all know, there are as many forms of bullying as there are different forms of human beings. Children can be emotionally abused all the way to being verbally abused. Even resulting in physical trauma. Plus there is religious bullying which I don’t even want to discuss.

Photo by Morgan Basham on Unsplash

I escaped being bullied by escaping into the ultra masculine world of sports. Back then, very few girls attempted to play any sports at all in the Midwestern rural area where I grew up. So by participating in football, baseball and basketball, I could at least for a time escape my desperate desire to be a cheerleader rather than a player.

Once I hit the high school years, I transferred to a new much bigger school and was faced with making new friends. Again back where I lived in the early 1960’s, schools were still years away from having any sort of LGBTQ clubs or organizations. No where to meet like mined individuals, even if I would have been brave enough to do it. What happened was I did meet a few others I as able to form friendships with. Although none I knew of who shared my gender dysphoria. Of course I didn’t have a name for it. All I knew was somedays I woke up desperately wanting to be a girl and it was slowing dawning on me I didn’t want a girl sexually…I wanted to be her physically.

Through it all, I was able to escape the bullies and essentially disappear into the overall mass of students. Plus I did over compensate and played on the high school football team until I broke an ankle. Not the fashion accessory I was looking for.

The problem was I didn’t really know what I was looking for. I was too shy to even ask a girl for a date but then would go home and if I was alone dress up like her. But I thought I needed to try to date a girl to once again prove to my family and friends I was a masculine person. I solved the problem by letting some of the girls in high school I barely knew set me up with a date to the schools’ junior prom…

JJ Hart

Married Transgender veteran author and blogger. I write in the hope of helping others with similar gender dysphoria