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“Trans-Dar” at Work

JJ Hart
3 min readOct 6, 2023
Transgender Rock Climber Nikki Smith

Yesterday I happened upon two television shows with LGBTQ friendly hosts.

During both shows, I was actually late in tuning in and missed the very beginning of the segments. During the first show, my “Trans-dar” didn’t really go off at all until the questions started. Of course, once I realized the woman was transgender I began to pay closer attention to what was going on. It turned out the trans woman’s sister invited her to be in her wedding. I immediately thought what was the problem? It turns out the trans woman was forced to walk down the aisle by herself because no one in the best man’s party would commit to even holding her hand for the walk. Of course, I felt her situation deeply having experienced something similar to that myself.

Years ago, when I began to become close to a small group of people in a venue I became a regular in, I was invited to join in a bachelorette party. To make a long story short, my invitation was revoked for a reason I was never told. Life went on and I was disappointed but I got over it. Maybe one of more of the other invitees objected to me being invited at all. I moved on forever wondering what went wrong. Joining in with a bachelorette women’s party at the time would have done wonders for my overall confidence with my presentation as well as my confidence in my new life.

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JJ Hart
JJ Hart

Written by JJ Hart

Thanks for stopping by! I am a married Transgender veteran author and blogger. I write in the hope of helping others with similar gender dysphoria

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