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Is the art of being transgender very complex or simple? It depends on where you are in your gender transition cycle.
Anyway you cut it, femininization is a difficult process and I assume the same is true for transgender men seeking to enter a male world. In my past, I have had conversations with a trans man friend of mine about the trials and tribulations of using the men’s room. The process seemed different to me because I had always taken for granted using the men’s room and ignoring everyone else in it. I experienced a much different world full of complexity when I started to use the women’s room. Just making sure I looked another woman in the eye was a challenge, not to mention everything else I needed to remember to survive.
Of course the biggest complexity was fashion, hair and makeup. Since we transgender women don’t have the luxury of growing up feminine, we have a ton of catching up to do. It is often more painful than fun but is something we just have to if we want to ever make it to the simplicity side of our lives. In addition, the complexity of living trans comes full circle when it comes to our emotions. Then emotions lead to our overall mental health, so it has a very deep relationship with our everyday lives. If we are fortunate, we settle into and come to an uneasy acceptance of being our authentic gender selves is the goal.
