Not a Choice

This morning I was watching the news and came across a story about the average everyday person and choice. What the reporter didn’t really ever say was for most things in life, we don’t really have a choice. If we like it or not, choices are increasingly being made for us. By now you are probably thinking here comes another rant concerning politicians coming after transgender and even women’s rights as a whole. But you are wrong. You all know my positions on the anti LGBT legislation sweeping the country. I would have to be Caitlyn Jenner not to.

Jessie Hart Collection

What I am referring to is our lack of choice we feel as we transition our gender. Male to female or female to male, it doesn’t matter. Normally we go through stages of despair and denial which has led the best of us to “purge” and throw away all the items we have acquired from what would become our authentic selves. My example came from when a close acquaintance of mine decided to purge his “collection” of feminine items. I was gifted a whole box of makeup, wigs and breast forms. Ironically, it wasn’t so far before that when I did the same thing.

During my purges I was sure I still had a choice and could quit the pesky idea I wanted to be a girl. The feeling was so enlightening, for a week or so. Not being the sharpest tack in the box, I finally learned my feminine desires were not going to magically disappear simply by throwing away my “collection” of feminine articles. Through it all I was slowly learning my true gender was not a choice and it was not the gender I was…