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Perhaps I should say looking for love in all the wrong places. Maybe you remember the country song from the “Urban Cowboy” movie. Sadly due to extreme loneliness many transgender women and trans men experience, we sometimes look for love in all the wrong places. Back a decade or so ago, on line dating was just becoming a thing and due to my extreme loneliness I thought I would give it a try. Due to a lack of finances and overall knowledge I attempted to find dates on three of the free dating sights. My biggest success turned out to be a real bonanza.
On one of the sights I had a response when I was on a “woman seeking woman” page. To be clear, I was always up front about being a trans woman which wiped out much if not all of my responses. Ironically, I had a response from my current wife Liz eleven years ago when she said I had sad eyes in my profile picture. Since she only lived a manageable distance from where I did, we decided to correspond in writing. The “writing” phase of our relationship started eleven years ago and we are still going strong. It took awhile though for me to feel secure enough with my voice to talk to her on the phone but when I survived the test I decided to gather the courage to ask her out on a date. She was a Wiccan lesbian and sad eyes or not I was fascinated, The first date was a drag show and all went well, even when I followed her into the women’s room on our way to the gay bar…
