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Every so often I reflect back on my first girl’s nights outs. Naturally before each event I was terrified. Here I was having the chance to enter a feminine only space I had previously dreamed of. I was petrified of thinking what I would say to attempt to add in my input to all the conversations. What do women talk about when men are not invited to be around.
It turned out over the years I was fortunate to be invited to four girl’s nights out. It turned out they were all unique in their own way.
During the first one I learned women (as I suspected) were more apt to discuss, family and friends topics. No more relying on work and sports to get me by. I was lucky I had a supportive daughter I could talk about. Other than that, I had to sit back and be more of the observer rather than a real active participant. I didn’t know several of the other women. One didn’t seem to care I was transgender while the other one did. I was a little surprised no one gently probed my reason of being there. It was probably because I was there with good friends such as my future wife Liz, Min and Kathy.
Most likely the most exciting and scary girl’s night out I was ever invited to came at the request of a couple servers at one of the venues I was a regular. One afternoon I was there and the servers came up to me and said they were planning a night out with a couple of other women and another nearby…
