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My journey to living my dream as a transgender woman admittedly took a long time.
Too long to many who blame me for waiting so long and tried to say I was somehow less transgender than they were. Which of course, I immediately dismissed. After all after I had spent nearly a half a century to achieve my goals, who were they to question me anyhow. Also, they dismissed me since I turned my back on any possible gender altering surgeries. My reasons included not wanting to undertake any serious surgeries at my age. I was in my early sixties when I decided to undergo HRT which I still call “Hormone Replacement Therapy.’ Since I understand has been relabeled in some circles. It’s interesting in that the topic this week of my Veteran’s Administration group session this week included two full pages on just transgender related labels from over the years.
Then, there was always the matter of trying to properly present my feminine gender in a brave new world. Along the way, a trans woman friend of mine told me I passed out of sheer willpower. Which I took to mean, I was going out in the world doing the best I could and I would learn as I went along. Similar to on the job training. As I continued my on the job gender training, I learned the hard way, the more I learned the more I needed to learn.
I was fortunate in that my entire life I made observing women a priority. By…
