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Nothing happens in a vacuum. No matter how hard you try, there are always outside influences which effect the outcome of what we want to happen.
This is especially true for transgender women and trans men. During our gender transitions we rely on others on occasion to show us the way. Recently, I have mentioned cis women such as Liz, Kim, my daughter and Min who provided guidance or even a shove to get me moving in the right direction. Liz in particular told me she didn’t see any male in me at all, my daughter took me to her hair salon and Kim took me to a professional football game. All were totally instrumental in me becoming a full time out transgender woman.
Ironically, early in my transition I didn’t believe in needing a cis woman to assist in furthering my own gender trip across the frontier. I went back to my much anticipated visit with my fiancé when she would completely dress me head to toe as a woman. Even though it was a thrilling day, deep down I wasn’t impressed that much with the results. As far as the makeup went, by that time I had plenty of time to practice on my own over the years. Her improvement just wasn’t that noticeable. As far as the clothes went, I picked out the outfit myself. I should have known she wouldn’t do that good because she is the one who wanted me to say I was gay to dodge the draft. When I wouldn’t she dumped me which turned out to be one of…
