PinnedMember-onlyKnocked off Another PedestalRecently I participated in a Veterans Administration survey. It primarily revolved my treatment at VA facilities as well as background on my life as a transgender woman. Included within the survey were heavy questions on had I attempted any surgical gender intervention, as well as treatment I had personally received…Surgery3 min readSurgery3 min read
PinnedMember-onlyA Transgender LifeOften I am amused when less than knowledgeable individuals or transphobes say we transgender women or trans men had a choice of transitioning our gender. Those of us who are in the middle of traveling a gender transition path know our decision was never a choice. Many times the whole…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
PinnedMember-onlyHow to be TransgenderWhat a question…right? All of us most certainly have a different but yet oddly similar answer to the question. Along the way here on the blog we have created quite the niche with transgender women who have decided to complete their gender transition later in life. A commitment such as…LGBTQ3 min readLGBTQ3 min read
PinnedMember-onlyTrans Girl in a Gay BarIt wasn’t too long following my coming out of my gender closet when I began to try to go to gay venues to express my authentic self in a relatively safe space. There were several I began to frequent quite a bit. Then there were others I was made to…Lesbian4 min readLesbian4 min read
PinnedMember-onlyIt’s a Transgender MarathonPerhaps you have heard the saying “It’s a marathon, not a race.” The saying really applies to transgender women and trans men. Recently on social media I have seen several posts from novice cross dressers or transgender women or more or less put on a dress and began to proclaim…Marathon3 min readMarathon3 min read
22 hours agoMember-onlyTransgender DreamsVery early in life, when I was asked what I wanted to be when I grew up, I never told the truth. I would fall back on the politically gender correct answer and say the usual such as a lawyer, doctor etc. The reason I say politically correct is because…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
1 day agoMember-onlyLetting the Gender World InRecently, in one of my Veteran’s Administration LGBT support sessions I have been attending, the moderator mentioned we weren’t coming out as much as we were letting people in. The idea resonated with me and I have used it extensively recently. Even more so when I considered adding it to…Gender Identity3 min readGender Identity3 min read
2 days agoMember-onlyThe Original Girl’s Night OutOver a space in time, I have written about the girl’s nights out I was fortunate to be invited to. During each one, I learned tons of information about how cis-women interact by themselves when there are no men in the group. Last night it occurred to me I had…Drag Queens3 min readDrag Queens3 min read
3 days agoMember-onlyConfidencePerhaps the most important and the most fragile accessory we can add as a transgender woman or trans man is the confidence to be ourselves. Positivity gives us the power to move forward on our gender paths. In my case, confidence was hard earned and still remained very difficult to…Confidence3 min readConfidence3 min read
4 days agoMember-onlyIt Takes a VillageDoes it really take a village to allow a transgender woman or trans man to fully let the world in so they can express themselves? For me it did but it took years and years for me to advance to the point in my life when I could live the…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
